When to start dating after death of spouse
Deciding to divorce when your spouse has a mental illness is a difficult, complex decision.It often involves first helping to get your spouse properly diagnosed and treated, and then figuring out the logistics of separating while also coming to terms with emotions of leaving someone who is sick.So, when I told her doctor what was going on, that led to a bipolar diagnosis and a round of treatment that eventually didn’t work.
I have to be very careful about what I say to my wife about her illness. I have to get outside help to convince her what’s obvious to me.
I’m in a situation where I’m trying to get her to get a job and move out. The typical situation is it’s a male with bipolar who’s going through all of these things.
All of the examples that I find to protect myself were geared towards women.
I’m not going to do anything with you until you get a job.”I draw lines. She asks for intimacy and closeness and I say, “Okay, you need to give me what I need first. I think there’s enormous social pressure and guilt involved in deciding to end your marriage to someone who’s physically or mentally ill.
Part of that comes from the traditional wedding vows, “in sickness and in health” and part comes from a fear of others judging you which is often rooted in them not understanding what it’s really like to live with the illness.